I believe that our men follow us—we don’t follow them. I’ll go as far as to say that the world follows us, and then it follows him.
In that sense, we are the foundation of everything.
This is just one of the reasons I focus on healing—to be the absolute best version of ourselves.
Yet women notoriously put themselves last. We think we need to help heal others—those we love. We figure our own pain—our own wounds—aren’t as important.
But what if we really took on healing? I mean for real, for real. The way we take on loving our kids.
What if we took on ourselves in such a way that allowed us to be truly whole?
Because I’ll tell you right now, if you DON’T take your healing on, then you are not whole. And if you aren’t, how can you raise your son to be?
How do you empower your father, your uncle, your brother … the men who love us … to be their whole, best selves?
When we heal, we forgive. We mend. We become stronger.
And when you love the man in your life enough to forgive … to give it your all … then you love the way God loves.
And through that, you encourage, by way of your action or non-action, that man to heal.
It’s ALL through love.
As one of my beloveds wrote it:
Love changes the world … and the world is within you.
PLEASE BE CLEAR: I am NOT advocating for codependency, abuse, or letting some man walk all over you. I am NOT suggesting you allow yourself to be treated like a doormat for the greater good. We’ve been there and have done that! It doesn’t work. What I am talking about is loving the men who love us—the ones who have DEMONSTRATED that they are “for” us winning. These men are consistent in their regard and honor of us, no matter their role in our lives.
So please do not take my teachings out of context. I am deep-diving into how ALL of us can win.
I ask myself this question on a regular basis now: what would be available for all the people who love me and whom I love, if I were healed SO completely, I didn’t react, become offended, insulted, or take my love away? What if we, as women, healed ourselves so completely, we didn’t “need” a man, but “wanted” him? What if you and I healed our money wounds to the core, and there was no social reward or social pressure for men to “provide” financially for us?
The key to a world that works for everyone is healing! And it starts with us.
Please comment below so we can bear witness: What would it take for you to put your own healing first?