Walking My Talk: Taking on My Healing

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If you follow me, you know my story.

By the time I was 16 years old, I was living on the mean streets of Baltimore, eating out
of trashcans and sleeping in urine and beer.

I took to the streets to get away from the negativity, the violence, I was raised in and with.

It was my ninth-grade math teacher, a Black woman, who literally saved my life. Because of her and her tangible love, I eventually graduated from Stanford University with a second master’s degree and a PhD. Currently, I hold FOUR degrees.

#realtalk: I was able to take all the survival that kept me alive on the streets and turn it into a system that fast-tracked me to the million-dollar mark in under three years.

You’ve probably heard me say it before:
My life is a miracle.
It was a miracle before I was even born.

I’m about to share some details of my life that you might NOT know now. And I’m doing that
because I want you to know I walk my talk.

You know I teach that, if you want to manifest millions, you HAVE to heal your heart. This is
not an option. You absolutely HAVE to heal your heart.

Well, I’ve just started a new kind of healing.

I don’t know who my daddy is.

But for the first time in my life, I’m tending to that wound.

I know I owe him my life. He kept me alive. My birth mother (did you know I’m adopted, y’all?)
didn’t want me. She had planned on aborting me. She had it all set up, even. But my daddy said
“no.”

Not because he was gentle. Oh, no. I come from a whole line of hustlers, so it wasn’t like he was
being polite. But he WAS standing for me—for my life.

He did that, but then he didn’t come back. He didn’t come for me.
So I’m taking on healing my wound with my father, and guess what? It’s doing something
amazing for me.

It’s creating a space for Black men to come out of the woodwork to support me.
#hollaifyoufeelme

I’m talking about AMAZING Black men who move weight … who get it done.

And the truth is, they probably have always been there, but because of the wound, I didn’t see
them! I had no idea that this wound was holding me back.

Let me explain in another way.

I love God. Old Testament God. I roll hard in the paint with God. I love Jehovah. Because he
was a gangster! A beast. He literally flooded the world. If that’s not some gangster shit, I don’t
know what is.

But I could never get down with Jesus. Don’t get me wrong—it’s not because of Jesus. Jesus is
Cool! And I love him as a radical. I think Jesus is extraordinary because he was turning over
tables long before we deified him into something much tamer.

But fundamentally, I could never BELIEVE that a man would die for me.

I couldn’t see it, because I don’t have that frame of reference. I didn’t have a father, so I never put
it together.

But when I took on this healing, extraordinary Black men started to show up in service of
me thriving. (My whole Hollywood team is ALL men.)

Black men, brothers who are moving things, doing things, doing it right, being great fathers …

Do you see what I’m saying?

I’m expanding, my sisters and brothers. I’m making room for the men who love us, and I’m
BEing with what has really been in my heart for a while. I’m just now starting to speak it.

Thank you for standing with me while I evolve.

Remember, EVERY person has pain. No matter your race, sex, or religion.

You just have to be willing to heal.

Comment below, so we can bear witness:
What pain in you needs healing, so it stops holding you back?

37 Responses to “Walking My Talk: Taking on My Healing”

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  3. Bridgette Carmack

    I am here with you. I support you. I AM HEALED! I was molested from the ages 7-10 by my girl cousin and 11-16 by my step dad. At 16 I was removed from my mom and two years later she left him. At age 31 my mother remarried him and as i confronted her about my issues that i was having with my own marriage because of my experiences she said i thought you where over that! It was then when i realized that i had to go to God for myself! I was broken and confused. But IM HEALED! I have a story to tell! And I help others to become healed now! I want to help millions! I’m ready! And ain’t no devil in hell can stop me! We are healed sis!!!!!
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  4. Subbora

    Thank you for being strong enough to be vulnerable enough to heal! When we recognize the power of that journey we have elevated to a higher frequency! Thank you for leading by example.... I am so much better since your transformationial Black Women's Millionaire Retreat...I will be a greeter and hold doors for your tribe anytime. Thank you Thank You Namaste
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    • Dr. Venus

      LOL! Namaste Subbora. I love you. Thank you for witnessing and for pouring your love on all of us. Sincerely, Dr. Venus
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  5. Luevennia Anderson

    I admire you so much!! Cant put my finger on whats eating me. Life is just so stressful, with adult children, I wish I had a do over with them. But I will just keep them n myself in prayer.
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    • Dr. Venus

      Dear Luevennia, Please forgive yourself as a parent. You did the best you could with what you had at the time. Your adult children are responsible for their victories and losses. Not you. I know that's hard to hear. But please keep in mind that every person has the power to choose how they respond to life's challenges, including your kids. My prayer for you is that you give yourself the grace you give your kids. I hope this helps... Dr. Venus
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  6. <a href='http://www.love-lifted-me.com' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Dr. Elise Barnett</a>

    For the past 12 years I have been peeling back the layers of pain due to my divorce. I found that writing my book Love Lifted Me What I Learned About Marriage After Divorce was very cathartic and it really helped to uproot the pain. Every now and then doubt and insecurities try to rise up but I remind myself that..... God loves us, He sent His son to die for both of us, and everyone deserves happiness, peace, and joy. Sometimes you have to separate yourself from those who are unhappy with you so that both of you have an opportunity to be happy alone. Daily I flood my life and heart with things that make me happy and remind myself that I deserve His best. I remind myself to be patient and wait for His best, and enjoy every bit of the journey.
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  7. Marie

    I am not sure about what needs to be healed in my life but what I do know is that things that aren’t my fault because of what other people do. I do realize that I can’t feel guilty or responsible for other people . However I punish myself for being a victim or circumstance and I hate victims because it indicates weakness. Maybe I need to heal from my self.
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    • Dr. Venus

      Dearest Marie, I LOVE this inquiry: "Maybe I need to heal from my self." Genius. I encourage you to look. What ways have you hurt you that you need to forgive or tend to? You are brilliant. Thank you for truly looking. You inspire me. Dr. Venus
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  12. Rochelle Howard

    Thank you for sharing your awesome story.! Our stories do make us appreciate how far we have come! Keep Living your Best Life Sis! Love & Much Respect to you!
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  13. Carol

    I'm in need of a mentor. I have two undergraduate degrees.One in Business Administration and my second in Psychology with a concentration in research and development. I'm 55 years young. Currently I work as a Substitute teacher for Xenia Community Schools. Help Dr.V.
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    • Dr. Venus

      Hi Carol, I feel you. Go to www.DefyImpossible.com/gift Implement the hell out of this training! It can change the course of your financial destiny. Enjoy! Dr. Venus
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  15. Joycelynn Glover Ellison

    Blessings Dr. V...my bio dad was not present in my life...is not present today...I am one of 30+ of his children...I reached out and connected with him 3 times while to this day he has not sent me a word through any of my siblings...for years I swallowed the hurt, disappointment, and feeling of rejection...but God...I choose to lance and heal that daddy-absent wound by reaching out to him and speaking my truth...thank you for your truth, courage, and transparency.
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  16. Chandra Dee cook

    I was sexually abused by my biological father. And I am a 49 yr. Old Stripper. I currently live on the street. But I ask you, " Who Will Cry For Me And The Little Girl Who Crys Inside Of Me?" I have not been able to help her yet.
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    • Dr. Venus

      Hello Chandra, Perhaps it's time for you to cry for the little girl inside and grow her up to the adult woman you are. I had to grow me up from momma putting me out and my addiction to continue to live that past. When I shift from her actions to my decisions about me from specific incidents that happened on her watch, I got my power back. My prayer for you sis is this: your father's actions do not need to be what uses your life. Helping the little Black girl inside of all of us is simply love. Tend to her and get on her side. Nurture her and let her know that YOU, the adult you, loves her and will take care of her. She will heal and merge into the incredible woman you are. :-) Dr. Venus
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  18. Shamika Thompson

    Thank you so much for sharing with us a part of your awesome journey and your amazing path to healing. I appreciate your strength and courage to continue in your process🙏.To God be the Glory🤲 He is the only one that can do miraculous things👏💥🎉🎊.
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  19. Patricia Elaine Turner

    I need to hesl in the area of forgiveness. I want to forgive my father, brothers and two ex husbands for not protecting me , but instead bandaging my wounds with temporary monetary provision ,instead of genuine and sincere love. If they knew better they would have done better!
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  20. <a href='http://www.marykay.com/ttaylor93140' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Theresa E Taylor</a>

    I have pain of rejection! I find it difficult to approach people in fear of being rejected. As a kid, my mother would make me go to all her friend's houses and ask for a cigarette, most of them would say no, sometimes in an angry way. I have forced myself to approach and ask people but I haven't been productive at it.
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    • Dr. Venus

      Hi Theresa, I am so proud of you. You are a very courageous and committed woman of power! Instead of forcing yourself to approach and ask people, I invite you to smile and let your beautiful heart come out through simply saying hello. Let them come to YOU by letting them see your heart. Give it a try and let me know how it goes. You are amazing and the world deserves to see your big beautiful heart. Sincerely, Dr. Venus
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  21. Denishea Williams

    I can relate to men showing up in my life to help me get over the obstacles and get a clear perspective, especially since my mother's view of men was negative. Thank you for sharing, you have helped me along this journey to get my own healing.
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