THIS is a time of new beginnings! 

In just 4 weeks, I’m moving to sunny, beautiful San Diego!

Dallas has been my home for 15 years, but it wasn’t the city I chose. I came here because of work … not because it called to my heart. 

But San Diego is my choice! And I’m SO excited. 

I’m going to give you a “virtual” tour of my new condo on the 29th floor. 

As you come in the front door, you immediately get the view in the background through the floor-to-ceiling windows. The mountains are glorious! You can see the water, too.

There is so much open space. It feels so clean, so full of possibility. The floors are all wood, which I love.

There’s a washer and dryer, a closet … the guest room with its own walk-in closet. (I’m already picturing my little sis—my best friend!—here.)

Oh, and the guest bathroom has a soaking tub! #realtalk: I want in already.

Then there’s the kitchen (y’all know I don’t cook, right?). LOL.

One of the things I love most about my new place is the balcony and patio. I’m going to lay some grass down out there so Happy doesn’t have to go down 29 levels to relieve himself. Oh, and from the balcony, you can actually see two dog parks down below. (Happy is HAPPY!)

The master bedroom has floor-to-ceiling windows too, which I just love. There’s a sort of industrial look and feel in there and I love that too! 

So I wanted to share this with you today because you’re my tribe, and you walk with me through my changes. I wanted you to know about this big one. 

But more importantly, I want to give it up to God. 

God did this. ALL of this. Please don’t ever think I did a damn thing. This was not about a goal, or ambition, or willpower, or prayer, even. This is all what God brought me. 

Looking back over the last 13 months, I didn’t always understand His plan. If you follow my blog, then you know we straight up boxed sometimes. But here’s what I know: you’ve got to give it to God. 

You’ve got to let God do God.

The beautiful thing is that, when you tell your truth, when you heal, you create the space to manifest. And when you start to manifest, what starts to arise, what starts to be revealed, is your destiny. 

Healing is the key. And you know I’ve preached this for years, because I LIVE it. 

The emergency hysterectomy knocked me on my ass, no doubt. But I CHOSE to heal. 

As a human being, it’s normal to have doubts. It’s normal to be bone tired when you’re hit with shit … when you face loss. It’s normal to be scared—to want to give up sometimes. It’s easy to say, “Fuck, I don’t want to deal with this no more.” That’s human.

But if you want to be whole, you have to let yourself grieve. If you try to be all positive on top of some bullshit, it will mess you up.

I’ll say it again: I chose to heal. I chose me. 

And choosing me means I tell the truth. 

Yes, I am still sad. I will never have a child, and that still hurts. Healing is a process. 

And God is a big part of that. I believe God broke me. Shook me. Thrashed the fuck out of me. 

All to evolve me.

And on the other side of that, I am blown away by His grace. 

I never would have given myself all of this—this new life. But God is so good. So faithful. 

My God is a gangsta, and I’m His favorite. 

I am SO grateful to Him for giving me beauty for ashes.

I’m starting all over again, and I am genuinely excited about the future. 

I’ve walked through the fire, and now, I breathe it. 


23 Responses to “The Raw & Real Series: New Beginnings.”

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  1. Sunita

    "I wanna be happy and I wanna find my way and I wanna run free and I wanna fly away" Run Free - Rebecca Ferguson 😁💖
  2. Satira Haynes

    Thank you for putting words to my feelings. I’m f*%*ing tired. As I write this I’m in tears from shear exhaustion. It’s a good cry because I no longer feel alone. Dr V your one bad motha... this is how life change happens. Thank you.. Love and Blessings to you.
  3. Satira

    Thank you for putting words to my feelings. I’m f*%*ing tired. As I write this I’m in tears from shear exhaustion. It’s a good cry because I no longer feel alone. Dr V your one bad motha... this is how life change happens. Thank you.. Love and Blessings to you.
    • Dr. Venus

      Hi Satira, I so feel you. Tired is real. I am glad you are releasing through tears. I take long baths--with Epson salt!LOL It helps a lot@
  4. Johnetta

    I am so happy for you. May God continue to bless and take care of you. You are such an inspiration in this crazy world.
  5. Andrea

    Wow ! What a blessing to hear how God has and is being you though it. I had a stroke on April 13, and since then I have changed I would love to be able to live my truth because at the end of the day you only get one life. I have to now find what makes me happy and what I really want to do, sometimes it's discovering this can be hard.
  6. Aleda

    Venus, you show victory on soooo, many levels it speaks volumes of the grace that God has devoted to you, I love that hope inspired you to move forward, it propelled you to come, just come all who are heavy laden. Thanks for the Uplift it feels fine. Be Blessed.
  7. <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Yalonda S Smith</a>

    That is exactly where I am...I want to run free and fly free and embark on this new journey, this dream that I thought would take years to reach, God is opening the door now to travel abroad for the next year. I am also grieving another broken engagement at the same time. However, I choose to trust God in the midst of it all. Its not always easy or pain free but I know he loves me and he is faithful. Thank you for your transparency Dr. V
  8. tia

    I want to SHOUT but I am in the office..LOL! My big Sis God is able and willing...Thank you for sharing you broken pieces! Thank you for sharing the rebuilding process!
  9. Denishea Williams

    I feel this message....especially when you said, "I chose to heal. I chose me". That's what I've been saying lately is that I am choosing. I've allowed some many things and hinderences to keep me from flying. I just got all gitty inside when I saw my affrimations coming from a woman I admire, for that showed me grace and faith. Thank you for allowing me to be apart of your story, because it set a fire to my cold soul.
  10. Michelle aka Shelly Matlock

    Wow I am so happy to walk with you as you go through the journey God has for you. No one can do what God can do no matter how hard they try. God knows us better than we know ourselves even in the uncomfortable situations that we find ourselves. It is a reason for that. We just have to realize that our freedom to where we need to go is on the other side of our comfort zone. I been watching you for a long time. I am one of the ones that wants to be a Millionaire but don't want what is attached to it. If it comes easy, it's not worth having is something I heard for years. I just want to say, thank you for living in your truth through your journey. God got your back. Have a bless day and Congratulations on your new home. I went to San Diego to graduate from Ashford University. It was a beautiful place.
  11. <a href='' rel='external nofollow' class='url'>Obinna Morton</a>

    Yes, you're fire in the form of a black girl. This is so inspiring. I listened to your podcast and am learning from your videos and website until I can afford your course for my business. I will get there. Thanks for your openness. I hope I can be half as transparent as you are. Just amazing. I also like the phrase, "God is a gangsta..." Nice.
    • Dr. Venus

      Thanks Sis!! I love you and am THRILLED you are growing with me! The first line made me fall in love with you... Thanks!

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