Last week, we talked about failure. Specifically, about how failure is NOT an indication of your worth, but actually, a crucial part of the path to your seven-figure destiny. (You can read it here.)
What we didn’t talk about was HOW we learn that we are failures—where that wound comes from.
It’s a fair question.
I think about my clients—smart, passionate, committed, beloved Type A personalities with hearts as big as Texas—who limit their own success because they can’t allow themselves to fail. They avoid failure at all costs, because a failure to them is a failure at the core level. If you can relate, let me ask you this: How? Why? Where did this sense of ‘failure/I’m a failure’ in high-achievers come from?
The answer is obvious: school.
Now, I of course know that there are many other factors to consider in the identity theory—trust me, as a theorist and philosopher, this is my area of expertise! But walk with me for a moment on this one.
North American education is rooted in an “enlightenment notion” of learning: deductive logic and repetition of facts. Translation: If you work hard and do well, you can expect to be rewarded with a good job, which leads to success. Sir Ken Robinson’s TED talk, How Education Is Killing Creativity, explains how traditional education is obsolete in the 21st century because the old Enlightenment Period model of education is completely outdated for a globalized economy and a hyper-connected world.
Think about it: When you were in school, if you got the answer right, you were rewarded. You learned how to play by the rules. If you didn’t, there were consequences. You learned to work hard, be congenial, get along, not rock the boat and beat the competition.
Can you see where this is going? All of those behaviors directly undermine your business success!
If you want a sustainable and profitable business,
you HAVE to be willing to fail in order to succeed.
But how? How do you undo GENERATIONS of teachings that etch into your sense of self that in order to be successful, you have to “get it right?”
I have noticed as an entrepreneur that the more I try to get it right, the less effective I am.
One of the ways I am creative in my business is by creating invitations. For example, I am taking a group of private clients to New York Fashion Week, September 5-7. I wanted this experience to really SOAR for my clients. So when our guest speaker pulled out at the last minute, I could have panicked. Right??
If we’re trying to “do it right,” I would have frantically tried to replace that guest speaker, even though it would have been a pretty difficult task this late in the game. I would have stressed out and scrambled.
Instead, I got creative. I talked with my team and Nanna (who truly is THE smartest person in the entire galaxy!), and created an “Insider Access” panel luncheon with a fashion designer, a contributing editor for Vogue, and a Billionaire! #micdrop #hollaatyourgirl!
I find when I let myself be creative instead of “doing it right,” the outcome is BREATHTAKING! And it’s a LOT more fun!
It may take a bit of coaxing your inner creative (or inner child) to have some fun with your business, but give it a whirl!
Look, sis, it can’t be any worse than suffering through the constant pressure of trying to “do it right.”
What do you have to lose?
Be creative this week! Be open.
And let us know how it goes by posting below, so we can witness you.
With all the love my heart can hold…