From the time momma put me out when I was sixteen, I’ve been learning about healing. And #realtalk – that’s how I spend most of my time. Healing. As I discovered how to heal, I learned how to manifest. I promise you, that is key: you have to heal to manifest. As I healed, I eventually graduated from Stanford University with a second Masters and a Ph.D. Then, I was a teacher, a tenured profes…Read More
Let’s be real. We have all—ALL of us—inherited a history of hurts at the cultural consciousness level. Those wounds shape us as individuals, they shape our relationships with one another, AND they shape our money. In other words, these wounds shape our entire existence. And when we are triggered, we evoke history: personal, cultural, AND historical. We then end up acting on those wounds, whe…Read More
I’ve asked myself this question so many times: Are you more committed to being right, or being rich? I mean, is it more important to you, sis, to be right about your point of view … about what you know … about what you’ve done … … than it is to be RICH? (And I’m talkin’ for real for real rich—so you can actually effect change.) I’ll tell you what I’ve been asking myself—wha…Read More
In my last post, I talked about making space for my father. (You can read it here.) Today, I want to take it a step further, and talk about making space for Black Men. Let’s be real—we are QUICK to villainize them. “We” meaning society, yes. There is no doubt That society has empowered masculinity—toxic masculinity—that has crushed so many things and people. But we do it as Black Women…Read More
#Realtalk: You can't get rich if you're being right about how you've been wronged—about how it “should” or “shouldn’t” be. Your money can't move like that. God cannot move in an unclean temple. The same goes for your relationships. I’m about to get personal. Walk with me? I’ve recently realized that I want to make space for my father. I don’t know him. I’ve never met him. But h…Read More
In my last post, I talked about how every person has pain, no matter their race or religion. Well recently, I experienced something that speaks to this point … and #realtalk—it kind of messed with my whole reality. A friend of mine was doing an event in Costa Rica. In the room, she kept deferring to a certain group of people. I couldn’t understand why, so I asked her … after all, SHE is th…Read More
If you follow me, you know my story. By the time I was 16 years old, I was living on the mean streets of Baltimore, eating out of trashcans and sleeping in urine and beer. I took to the streets to get away from the negativity, the violence, I was raised in and with. It was my ninth-grade math teacher, a Black woman, who literally saved my life. Because of her and her tangible love, I eventually gr…Read More
I am fully stepping into my destiny. And as I reflect on the journey, if there is one thing I can say that would be useful to YOU right now, it’s this: realize your worth. The world needs you to be who you were uniquely crafted by life to be. You are special, and you have something beautiful—something completely distinct and precious—to give to the world. BELIEVE that. Don’t be afraid to l…Read More
One of the biggest lessons I have learned is this: money is energy, not effort. This realization was HUGE for me. I always thought if I worked hard, I would make more. So as a professor, I took on mentoring students, being on multiple committees, and teaching summer classes under the auspices of “proving” my worth to “the powers that be.” I sincerely believed that if my deans and peers saw…Read More
I remember the first time I learned to trade my hustle for my trust in God. It was when I was in the process of buying my first “big-money” home. I had already choked once when I found one for just around $600k. #realtalk: I was so used to “hustlin” … “makin’ it happen” … that I truly COULD NOT just let it be easy. So I let my fear stop me. See, I had been conditioned to work HAR…Read More