1. The Sins (and Wounds) of the Father

    The sins of the father fall upon the child. And so do the wounds. Right? I've really been BEing with that lately. If you've been with me for a minute, then you know Momma and I had to work some things out. I bear her scars and I bear her wounds. I bear the wounds of my mother's mothers, and I also bear the wounds of the absence of my father. But I never took ON my father. I didn't even think to. I…Read More

  2. Money Myths

    From the time momma put me out when I was sixteen, I’ve been learning about healing. And #realtalk – that’s how I spend most of my time. Healing. As I discovered how to heal, I learned how to manifest. I promise you, that is key: you have to heal to manifest. As I healed, I eventually graduated from Stanford University with a second Masters and a Ph.D. Then, I was a teacher, a tenured profes…Read More

  3. A History of Hurts

    Let’s be real. We have all—ALL of us—inherited a history of hurts at the cultural consciousness level. Those wounds shape us as individuals, they shape our relationships with one another, AND they shape our money. In other words, these wounds shape our entire existence. And when we are triggered, we evoke history: personal, cultural, AND historical. We then end up acting on those wounds, whe…Read More

  4. Are You Committed to Being Right, or Rich?

    I’ve asked myself this question so many times: Are you more committed to being right, or being rich? I mean, is it more important to you, sis, to be right about your point of view … about what you know … about what you’ve done … … than it is to be RICH? (And I’m talkin’ for real for real rich—so you can actually effect change.) I’ll tell you what I’ve been asking myself—wha…Read More

  5. Making Space for Black Men

    In my last post, I talked about making space for my father. (You can read it here.) Today, I want to take it a step further, and talk about making space for Black Men. Let’s be real—we are QUICK to villainize them. “We” meaning society, yes. There is no doubt That society has empowered masculinity—toxic masculinity—that has crushed so many things and people. But we do it as Black Women…Read More

  6. Making Space

    #Realtalk: You can't get rich if you're being right about how you've been wronged—about how it “should” or “shouldn’t” be. Your money can't move like that. God cannot move in an unclean temple. The same goes for your relationships. I’m about to get personal. Walk with me? I’ve recently realized that I want to make space for my father. I don’t know him. I’ve never met him. But h…Read More

  7. Expanding the Conversation: The Truth About Historical/Cultural Wounds

    In my last post, I talked about how every person has pain, no matter their race or religion. Well recently, I experienced something that speaks to this point … and #realtalk—it kind of messed with my whole reality. A friend of mine was doing an event in Costa Rica. In the room, she kept deferring to a certain group of people. I couldn’t understand why, so I asked her … after all, SHE is th…Read More

  8. Walking My Talk: Taking on My Healing

    If you follow me, you know my story. By the time I was 16 years old, I was living on the mean streets of Baltimore, eating out of trashcans and sleeping in urine and beer. I took to the streets to get away from the negativity, the violence, I was raised in and with. It was my ninth-grade math teacher, a Black woman, who literally saved my life. Because of her and her tangible love, I eventually gr…Read More

  9. The #1 Thing You Must Do to Make Room for Wealth

    I am fully stepping into my destiny. And as I reflect on the journey, if there is one thing I can say that would be useful to YOU right now, it’s this: realize your worth. The world needs you to be who you were uniquely crafted by life to be. You are special, and you have something beautiful—something completely distinct and precious—to give to the world. BELIEVE that. Don’t be afraid to l…Read More

  10. What EXACTLY Is Money?

    One of the biggest lessons I have learned is this: money is energy, not effort. This realization was HUGE for me. I always thought if I worked hard, I would make more. So as a professor, I took on mentoring students, being on multiple committees, and teaching summer classes under the auspices of “proving” my worth to “the powers that be.” I sincerely believed that if my deans and peers saw…Read More