1. Strategic Visioning: Giving Up Lying

    People are great—and they lie. We lie to keep the peace. We lie to avoid blame. But mostly we lie to survive. Personally. Privately. We lie in order to maintain a story that keeps our sense of self in place. Of course we don't call it lying--that would be rude. We call it kindness or executive decisions, or "it's no big deal" or "I am doing them a favor."  We lie by withholding information and …Read More

  2. Strategic Visioning: Dying to Live

    The "you" you have come to rely on has to die in order for you to live beyond the predictable. The you that has made you successful, even exceptional is great. He/She has created miracles without money, has turn companies and relationships on the brink of disaster around, and has leaped across oceans in one single bound. In street vernacular on could say you are a baddd________(fill in the blank).…Read More

  3. Strategic Visioning: Relax into Your Arrogance

    The strategies that made you successful will bankrupt you relationships. I have spent my entire adult life trying to make it. Get somewhere. Be "somebody." And if you are anything like me, then you know the itch of the "next" accomplishment, the "next" big promotion, the "next" new business. Most of my clients are like me, in that they are high-performers. We believe in winning like some people be…Read More

  4. Courageous Strategic Visioning

    It takes fantastic courage to live life true to your core beliefs and values. The courage it takes to confront your worst fears, tell the truth (especially when your image and credibility are in the mix), and keep taking action that is consistent with what you deem is your destiny can feel like trying to run through mud. Uphill. Wearing iron boots. The kind of courage I am pointing to is not outwa…Read More

  5. Strategic Visioning: Surviving the Death of a Dream

    What do you do when a dream dies? You know the dream--the start-up getting an angel investor; the promise of a promotion that you have worked years to earn; the prelude of a soft smile and tender eyes from across the room every weekday for  over year. That dream. The dream you nurture with time spent away from your children, late nights in front of the computer, or flights to far away lands. The …Read More

  6. CONGRATULATIONS: WELCOME HOME—TO YOURSELF!

    You matter. Here, you will hear truth and let it go to work on you professionally and personally, but most importantly within yourself. I tend to the "human" in human capital and human potential. I use the strategies that got me off the streets at 16 to graduating from Stanford University with a 2nd Masters degree and a Ph.D in hopes of helping leaders of all ilks succeed. So please read, subscrib…Read More

  7. Never Give Up On You!

    Have you ever just wanted to give up? Throw in the towel? Quit? You don't—but you punish yourself on the down-low? You stay, but you stop going to the gym. You participate, but you check your Blackberry while you are sitting in the meeting. You go to the event, but sit by the bar and snacks, make friends with the Apple Martini but ignore your coworkers; you are there but you are really gone. To …Read More

  8. Bullying, Cruelty, & Hope

    I have faith in life after cruelty. Life can be cruel. People are cruel. Sometimes people, including you and I, can be downright malicious, particularly when we are threatened. I think about the bullying that is now becoming a nationally recognized epidemic because of the recent suicides of our youth. Books, programs, and commercials are materializing with regard to anti-bullying in schools. But b…Read More

  9. Demons & Dreams

    Your personal demons scream louder and louder the closer you get to fulfilling your dreams. At least that is how it is for me. Within the last two weeks I have had 4 publications, 1 cover story, 1 showcase where I absolutely shined, new friends who are where I want to be, and have been invited to apply for a top position at a research 1 university, which is a big deal in the academic world. I have…Read More

  10. Getting Out of the Ghetto

    "Leaving" the ghetto doesn't mean "getting out" of the ghetto. The ghetto is a mentality and it can be part of how you survive as an identity. The ghetto as  mental bondage can be with you if you are rich or poor; black or white; yellow or brown; Jew or Gentile. I come from the streets. So all my adult life has been about credit: getting good credit, having good credit, and paying my bills on tim…Read More