Let’s be real.
We have all—ALL of us—inherited a history of hurts at the cultural consciousness level. Those wounds shape us as individuals, they shape our relationships with one another, AND they shape our money.
In other words, these wounds shape our entire existence.
And when we are triggered, we evoke history: personal, cultural, AND historical. We then end up acting on those wounds, when we turn someone else into the enemy.
Black women have a historical wound around being heard.
Black men have a historical wound around being respected. Why do you think they so often feel underappreciated and disrespected? Why do you think they say they can never satisfy us?
I’ll tell you. It’s because we—Black women—interact with who they used to be, NOT who they are becoming.
Let that sink in.
So, what do we do?
We heal the historical wound. We stop villainizing our men based on what they did or didn’t do in the past.
We humanize them.
We heal our own hearts, to make room for them to love THEMSELVES. Then and only then can they love US from their over-flow instead of overdrawn bank.
We focus on love.
I’ll tell you this:
When a Black man loves you—when he experiences you relating to the God in him, he will move heaven and earth for you.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please comment below, so we can bear witness. Who is the Black
man who loves you? Shout out to him, here.