1. The Gift of a Great Mentor

    Let’s face it: success can be lonely. One of the things I have been longing for is a peer group that could feed me and provide a safe space for me to be heard, seen, and loved. So I invested in myself by working with my scaling mentor, Lisa Cherney, and a peer group of BEAST-MODE bo$$e$! LC is woo-woo on steroids, and a marketing/growth/scaling genius. She was the one who showed me how we can do…Read More

  2. The Gift of Healing

    Wounds. We all have them. No matter your race, religion, beliefs, politics … we have all been hurt, and we all have scars. The problem is that those scars often become blocks—energetic blocks—that keep you from experiencing an abundant, happy life on your own terms, as a strong black woman. Maybe your wounds are physical—something related to your body. Maybe they’re generational—reflec…Read More

  3. Gift or Guilt: Giving as Inspiration or Obligation

    When I was living on the streets, there was one place I KNEW I could get food and clothes from: The Black Church. Mt. Calvary Star Baptist Church, to be specific. Rev. Young was the pastor.   When I joined the Coast Guard Reserves to get off the streets, Rev. Young took up a collection for me. That money covered my travel expenses, clothes, food, and other necessities during my entire Bootcamp ex…Read More

  4. Do You Pray for Your Business?

    Do you pray, sis? I do. All the time. Every day. I pray for my wife, for Nanna, for my family, my friends, my sisters, my team … I pray for guidance, personally and professionally, so I can make the difference I know I was born to make. I pray for YOU. And I pray for your business, as your vehicle for transforming lives. I pray for Defy Impossible, Inc.—MY vehicle for transforming lives, one s…Read More

  5. Team Building

    Love First, Money Second

    This month, I’ve been talking about growing. Scaling. Going BIGGER. And I talked about how, if you want to grow your business, it’s critical to invest in a kickass team. (If you missed it, you can read If You’re Ready to Go Bigger, THIS Is Critical here, and get my tips for building an incredible team that is a perfect fit for you and your business.) It’s almost Thanksgiving, which is why …Read More

  6. The Circle of Thanks

    Sitting around a huge Thanksgiving dinner with people you love, sharing what you’re thankful for. It’s a holiday tradition people share all across the U.S., right? It’s a “Circle of Thanks.” And it’s about more than the words. #realtalk: Giving ‘thanks’ is the most beautiful gift you can give.  So when you sit around the table and share your gratitude, you are giving the gift of a…Read More

  7. If You’re Ready to Go Bigger, THIS Is Critical.

    Two weeks ago, I talked about how, if you’re ready to touch MORE people with your gifts, make a bigger impact, AND generate the kind of paper that will LET you live the life you want for yourself, you have to take a leap. And that’s scary. I know. So I gave you tips to help you re-center yourself, stay in the game, and make the jump. Today I want to talk about one CRITICAL key to scaling your …Read More

  8. Are You Ready to Go BIGGER?

    If you’re ready to scale your business—to go BIGGER—you may feel like you’re standing on the edge of a cliff. Do you stay where you are, looking out over the beauty of what’s possible? Safe, but with “the dream” locked away in your mind and heart? Or do you leap, and risk the fall? I know how the chaos can feel inside, when you’re in front of something big. For me, that’s exactly…Read More

  9. Believe in you


    What would it take for you to believe you again? I don’t mean ‘believe in’ you; I mean to believe in you like you could take what you say to yourself to the bank and the money would be there. And I don’t, mean hope. I mean a deep knowing like you know “the Sun rises in the East and sets in the West” kind of knowing. Like knowing you are a man or knowing you are a woman–you don’t ha…Read More

  10. The Power of Anger

    When you read the title of this post, what’s your first thought? “Hell, yes! I’m an angry Black Woman. And I’m powerful.” Yes? Except that’s not what I’m saying here, sis. #realtalk: We ALL have reasons to be angry. Strong black women all around the world feel it. We walk around like the badasses we are, pressing on, no matter what life puts in front of us. No matter our history, our…Read More